Encouraging Bravery in Ourselves and Our Girls
We all know that the fear of failure holds us back. But, is YOUR fear of failure holding your CHILD back?
Bravery is a necessary attribute in order to persevere when there is a chance of failure. Bravery comes from calling upon our resilience.
Research shows that participating in risky play is vital in helping our children develop bravery. However, your fear as a parent often gets in the way of your child exploring risky play, particularly your girls.
There are 6 elements of risky play that children must learn to explore safely.
- Speed - using slides, skis, bikes, etc. without losing control.
- Heights - climbing trees and other structures safely.
- Tools - learning to use knives and machinery appropriately.
- Elements - teaching fire and water safety.
- Rough Housing - wrestling and play fighting while respecting others.
- Disappearing - hide-n-seek and the freedom to separate from an adult.
Over the past 60 years we have witnessed, in our culture, a continuous, gradual, but ultimately dramatic decline in children’s opportunities to play freely, without adult control, and especially in their opportunities to play in risky ways. Over the same 60 years we have also witnessed a continuous, gradual, but ultimately dramatic increase in all sorts of childhood mental disorders, especially emotional disorders. - Psychology Today
As Caroline Paul says in the video below, risky play teaches resilience, confidence in yourself and your decisions, hazard assessment, delayed gratification, and ultimatley, bravery.